I now have recruited 4 mentors for myself.  I am really quite impressed with myself, and amazed that these men are keen to support me and encourage me in my life.  Now comes the scarey part - taking advantage of what these men have to offer me.  I am aware that I am likely to […]

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I mentioned mentoring the other day.  I am currently in the process of recruiting mentors for myself.  My therapist is really pushing me to do this.  I have always avoided this in the past, and have focused on creating good peer relationships.  I never realised that mentoring relationships would be useful.  But, now it just […]

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Many people think that homosexuality is just about sex - sex with someone of the same gender. I don’t deny that this is often the outcome of homosexuality in someone’s life. It makes the “condition” (for want of a better term) truly evident for the individual. Nevertheless, both the gay activist and […]

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So, what is homosexuality actually about?  One way to consider it is by considering unmet needs.  A boy grows up with core needs which need to be met in order for him to develop his personality successfully.  Needs such as time, talk, touch, as well as affirmation and direction.  When these needs are left unmet […]

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Just a quick post to tell you that I am going away for the weekend.  It is a well earned rest from my day-to-day existence.  I’m still thinking a lot about infantile trauma (see yesterday’s post).  An interesting topic.  I have been following the trail through pre- and perinatal pychology on wikipedia.  It links through […]

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I believe that homosexuality is principally the result of psychological trauma (see my other key beliefs re homosexuality on my about page).  This trauma may have occurred at any point prior to the onset of homosexual feelings.  I believe such trauma could even be in the womb and the first months of life.  Babies are extremely […]

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I’m feeling good today - have a sense of purpose. I planned my day last night before I went to sleep. That made a difference for me. It gave me focus as soon as I got up this morning and ensured that I didn’t let any of my day drift by. By lunchtime I felt […]

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Ok, so I discussed my new incantations yesterday - i.e. positive, affirming beliefs said with as great an emotional intensity as possible (bearing in mind who’ll hear you!) See yesterday’s post on Motivation to Change if you missed it. I said I would post the detail at some point, so here it is…
Beliefs/ uncertainties that […]

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Motivation to change is very important to change. You will never change if you are only half-hearted about it. I have spent a lot of the last 8 years or so being half-hearted about changing from being homosexual to heterosexual. Although, I rationally believed that I was not born gay, and that since it had […]

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It’s Saturday - I’ve got a whole weekend to fill. Sometimes this excites me - but often I just feel the pressure of my free time. It’s kind of a throw back to when I was a kid. From the age of about 8, I didn’t have any friends that I felt comfortable calling on […]

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